Scripture of the Day
Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
“Love Language”
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
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As I continue to seek GOD’s advice on communicating with my spouse, I am starting to realize how much I have just read over the book of Proverbs! I have been missing some sound communication advice from GOD’s Word! Not that me and the little lady is having any problems . . . GOD has put the desire to communicate even better with her on my heart! Again, this is some good marriage 101 stuff!
These two words can start some serious arguments and debates! We found this out early in our marriage and we still make the mistake from time to time! For example, I could say something like, “You are always complaining!” Now it didn’t matter that she would actually be complaining at the time, but we would have a long “debate” over my choice of using “always” Then there are the times when she would say something like, “You never say that you love me!” This would get the tea pot steaming! It didn’t matter that I didn’t say this on our anniversary . . . how could she use the word “never”
I would argue the fact that I have said it before and she is wrong to use the word “never” And like an idiot, I would purpose in my heart not to tell her I loved her for a long time! Wow . . . we really did struggle in the area of communication! We didn’t curse at each other (much), but we did use “trigger” words like “always” and “never” to stir up anger.
Thank GOD that HE has given us a new language! You see, GOD’s love language teaches us to use gentle words and give gentle answers. We have done our best to eliminate all “trigger” words. Here is the key to that success! We both love GOD! We both tell each other what words “trigger” that anger! We both respect each other’s transparency and don’t use it as a tool to strike at each other! And we use the love language as much as possible, so that it doesn’t sound foreign! Many times, we don’t want to speak from GOD’s love language until we have done something wrong! Not only do we do this to each other, but we do it to GOD too. When we need HIM, we speak gentle and with compassion! But as soon as things are not going our way . . . here come the harsh words! Here is another key to success that we have learned from a dear friend . . . speak in the form of a gentle question! She would never tell someone that they are going to hell, but she would ask the question, “Do you know that GOD loves you so much that HE doesn’t want you to choose a place of eternal fire?” What a wise woman!
I speak this to everyone who is reading . . . I Love You . . . And GOD Loves You More!
2 comments:
Even when I dissappoint my heavenly FATHER, HE doesn't use harsh words against me. HE always give me the truth that will sometimes hurt my pride, but never has HE spoken harsh! We should all desire to speak as gentle as HIS Word! GOD speaks kindly even to those who reject HIM! Not only does HE allow us to hear HIS gentle voice, but HE allows us to see HIS gentle Word!
Bro, this one is DEEP and oh so true!!! I have been on the receiving end of
trigger words and I to would purposely do things in response. This is a continual learning/humbling process.
You are speaking to me man!!! Keep doin what you are doing. God is listening
and so am I!!!
Also, I have never been afraid to tell a man that I love him either. I love
you man!!! Rhino bro charging in and leading the way to the word of God!!!
Awesome!!!
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